Love

I think as we get close to valentines day we get so caught up in things that we forget what it truly means to love. To start off with there are three types of love. Empty love (commitment only), infatuation (passion or platonic), and liking(intimacy). When you are in a relationship with someone you go through all three of these or at least two and then combined at some point you hope to get to consummate love. Sometimes this does not happen, but it is hoped and desired for. In a relationship though if at least two of these do not develop then the chances of your relationship making it decline. These three also include every type of relationship we have for someone not just romantic which is passion mixed with intimacy. Friendship is simply liking or intimacy and companionate (or a companion for lack of better words)love is intimacy with empty love. Thus if someone says something about a companion for me up here it could mean a friend like one of my roommates or someone that I am close to and simply lack any passion or infaturation. You see now for marriage which seems to be the golden one up here you need all three types of love or consummate love. Also with love, true love sometimes you can find that at one point you are more on the verge of one type of love than the others. For example when you first get married most newly weds tend to be a bit on the hot blooded passionate side. Older couples are more on the companionate side. All together these loves actually form the love triangle which is why sometimes it may seem that even with friends of the opposite sex we can get crushes on them. It is only natural after all it is simply a form of love. Now then that I have explained what love is and the types of love I can go into the things that tend to come out around valentines day. We seem to forget with this holiday that it is about love, not flowers and chocolates. Those are awesome, I know I always love to see flowers on my doorstep, but we get so caught up with everything. I have heard girls complain about what their boyfriend's did not do for them. They should think of what they did because everyone also expresses love differently so what may seem like a gesture to one person may seem like an insult to another. Thus sometimes as much as the brainwashing of the media may do we need to remember what is really important on this holiday. It is the love that counts even if the gesture may be a bit awkward or something be glad it happened and smile.